February 14th has become the MOST anxious, expensive, and least romantic day of the year.
What are your thoughts on organized love? The thought of somebody, or something commanding you to confess your affections at a particular time, or day. Giving gifts of chocolates, roses, and sweet smelling perfumes all so you can tell your partner, cat or self, that you love them. Its ridiculous right? Well that’s basically what Valentines Day is. A day specifically catered to ‘love’, or the ideals behind love.
I’m not shunning Valentine’s Day, nor will i go off on a tangent and tell you how I’ve never really experienced the “OMG I can’t believe he did that. He is the one!” movie style Valentine’s Day; i think the ideals behind Valentine’s Day are lovely. Even if traditionally it was a festival of fertility. But i just don’t like the idea of FORCING people to love you at that particular moment in time. The idea of organized love, similarly to organized fun like theme parks and carnivals, is ludicrous. If i want to confess my love to someone, or even my strong like-ness for them, i want to do it on my own schedule. I want no stress. No expectations and definitely no Hallmark greeting card that can one-up me.
Love is meant to be spontaneous, messy, unpredictable and occasionally sticky. It should never be perfect; or organized. It should just happen. Everyone wants one of those stories they tell their friends or families and Valentines Day is ruining it!
Now I know what you are all thinking. I’m the crazy cat lady, who hates men, hates love and spews words of hate at the cute couples that walk hand in hand, calling each other awkward pet names like ‘Wobbly-Butt’. But I’m not. I’m a regular girl, who likes to feel special, feel loved and above all, fell like the most beautiful person in the world through your eyes. I don’t like the idea of being a chore, or being something you can just tick off your ‘To-Do List’. Valentine’s Day to me, ruins the spontaneity that relationships once had. It takes away the pizazz, and replaces it with a heart shaped box of chocolates, a sappy card and a overly soft teddy bear. It takes the originality out of love.
Just think about it. What did you do for Valentine’s Day last year? Did you go out for a romantic dinner? Did you get a nice bunch of flowers that made you feel on top of the world all day? Did someone even say they loved you? If you answered yes to all three of these, then i rest my case. If you answered no to all of these, then i will show you what Valentine’s Day is really about!
What’s your plans for Valentine’s Day 2015?